Daily Inspiration - November 9

A man’s reputation is the opinion people have of him; his character is what he really is. Jack Miner

During our school years our reputations meant everything. If we had a reputation for being popular, people wanted to be around us. If we had a reputation for being a “trouble maker” we would always be the first one to get in trouble if something went wrong. Our reputations always preceded us. Options were formed without even meeting us. People believed what they heard. Today many of us still place our reputation foremost in our mind. And we do everything in our power to ensure that we maintain a “good” reputation. We even go so far as to neglect our own needs in an attempt to please everyone around us.

People pleasers are usually unhappy people. They lose their identity trying to make sure everyone else is happy. The only character they have is what others think of them. When all is said and done we must live with who we are, not with what others think of us. It is our feelings, our spontaneous responses, our values that make up our character. As hard as we might try, we cannot change another’s opinion of what they think we might be. We have to live with who we know we are. Isn’t it worth our time and effort to begin to identify our character? This will enable us to have our needs met, have self-respect, and be comfortable with who we are? No matter how hard you try, you will never please everyone. There is one person that is vital to please, YOU.